This is a unique and scary time in our world. This pandemic is causing a lot of stress and uncertainty, which is made worse by the fear that there is no definite end in sight.

We are now finding ourselves at home, surrounded by the same sights and people every second of every day, without the variation we previously took for granted. While it may be wonderful for some to have this extra time to spend with family, it may also be adding some unneeded stresses and frustrations.

I’m willing to bet that some of your household relationships are suffering as a result.

The first step toward changing this, and repairing these damaged relationships, is to BE HONEST. Be honest with yourself and your loved one about how you’re feeling. Share your thoughts, struggles, and stresses. Talk about how this time is challenging for you. The goal is to release what you’ve been holding inside and create a healthy dialogue. The goal is NOT to be rude, hurtful, aggressive, or loud during your disclosure. Work toward having a conversation, not a fight.

Once you have shared you may also state one thing you need. Keep in mind that this statement is for something YOU need, not for something the other person can do for you. You are talking about yourself, not making demands. Do you need some alone time? Do you need more fun moments with your loved one? Do you need to take a walk or get out of the house more? Do you need more teamwork, appreciation, or respect?

What is your loved one thinking and feeling? What do they need?

Choose to connect, to really talk, instead of withdrawing into yourselves. You’ll find that honest, constructive communication will strengthen your relationship and reduce some of your COVID-induced anxiety.